what is your mediation style?
let me first explain the question to anyone who is not sure what it means... if the adr lingo section of this site were expanded upon, it would likely include terms like "facilitative", "evaluative" + "transformational" in describing forms of mediation. these are terms used to describe the focus of the mediator in the mediation process + the type of role they play in it.
while i will expand upon these "styles" of mediation below, my answer to the question is that i have no set style.
i am flexible + adapt to the needs of my clients.
in my experience, it is next to impossible for anyone to know what "style" of mediation will best suit them throughout the process in advance. there may be benefits to certain approaches based on how the mediation plays out. as a result, this consideration in advance of a mediation is usually more theoretical than practical. i encourage reflecting through the style of mediation one identifies as their preference, as this can help clarify what they want to get out of the process.
in mediation, the parties ultimately decide if they want to resolve the dispute or not. the mediator's job is to help the parties better understand one another + help generate options to consider. each party determines for themselves - sometimes with the help of a lawyer - what option is best for them.
with "facilitative" mediation, the mediator guides a process where everyone gains a better understanding of one another's perspective, position + interests. collaborative exploration occurs to unearth various possibilities to address the matter + it is ultimately up to the parties to decide if any are worthwhile to settle the dispute.
in "evaluative" mediation, the mediator has experience with the nature of the conflict. they draw upon their knowledge of similar cases to point out weaknesses in each party's case (usually privately to each party) + helps with reality checking by offering practical likely outcomes to consider. an evaluative mediator should have subject matter expertise in the dispute. their views are not binding; they offer a neutral evaluation that parties can consider if they wish to.
"transformational" mediation looks beyond the dispute at hand to the interactions between the parties. big picture consideration is given to their relationship + ongoing interactions. often, when the relationship between those involved in a dispute can be improved, they are better able to address their conflict as well as prevent the emergence of future conflict.
all of these mediation styles can be helpful + can be combined into a single process.